Dear Bunmi, I’m 19 and I’ve just started polytechnic. I really enjoy my studies but currently have a crush on one of my lecturers.
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Though he’s in his 40s, he looks really sexy. I get excited every time I have lectures with him.
When he comes up to me in class, I get really shy. I’m normally a loud girl, but I’m very quiet during his lessons.
Dear Bunmi, I’m sure he has realised that something is wrong.
All this is making me disorientated with my studies.
Can you help?
Agnes, by e-mail.
Dear Agnes,
As you’ve already observed, when you become attracted to the opposite sex, you think and dream of little other than the person who has suddenly become the object of your attention.
And because you don’t know the person well, you’re able to fantasise that he’s a desirable and perfect person you’re falling for.
It is often inappropriate and not someone that would make a satisfactory mate.
So, enjoy your crush while it lasts. Believe me, the thrilling feelings you now sense will soon pass.
One day, not so far from now, your teacher will seem like just another middle-aged man.
You’ll wonder what you ever saw in him.
