Interview

Women should not let career success damage family life – Nonagenarian

90-year-old retired Chief Executive Protocol and Hospitality Officer, University of Ife (now Obafemi Awolowo University) Mrs Yetunde Sampson, shares her extraordinary career journey with TEMITOPE ADETUNJI and offers invaluable advice for young women striving for success in their professional pursuits

What was growing up like for you?

I was born in Enugu, where I schooled and learned Igbo as my first language. In 1941, our family relocated to Lagos. My immediate younger sister and brother were also born in Enugu, while my youngest sister was born in Lagos in 1945.

Initially, we settled in the Oshodi area before moving to Bamgbose Street on Lagos Island. The transition from Enugu to Lagos exposed me to a blend of cultures, particularly Yoruba, enriching the diversity of my childhood experiences.

Tell us briefly about your family background

My mother, Iquo Inyang, hailed from Henshaw Town in Calabar, while my father, Paul Solade, had Brazilian heritage and was originally from Igbein in Abeokuta, Ogun State. We were a multilingual household, fluent in both Efik and Yoruba.

This unique blend of cultures provided me with a rich upbringing filled with diverse experiences, traditions, and perspectives that shaped my worldview from a young age.

Can you recall one of your fondest childhood memories?

One of them revolves around a humorous yet telling incident. As a child, I did something that upset my mother, who was quite strict and she disciplined me sternly.

On one occasion, her reprimands were so severe that my father felt compelled to report the matter to the police, highlighting the strict nature of my mother’s discipline.

Despite the serious undertones, the memory reflects my mother’s tough yet loving nature in a humorous light. Another lighter memory involves my cousin, who once joked about my mother’s shorter stature compared to his tall frame, suggesting she should stand on a stool to reach him better.

These moments, filled with family warmth and lightheartedness, are cherished parts of my childhood.

Kindly share some memories from your stay in Enugu that shaped your upbringing

Yes, Enugu played a pivotal role in my early years. My late father was a Methodist member, and I spent a significant part of my childhood in the church. When we later moved to Lagos, my exposure to both Enugu and Lagos cultures helped shape my adaptability and identity. I had many beautiful experiences, including studying in the UK.

What inspired you to further your studies in the UK?

The decision to study in the UK was driven by a deep curiosity about the world and the opportunities that existed beyond Nigeria. I heard fascinating stories from those who returned from overseas, sparking a desire in me to explore and experience life abroad.

During my time in the UK, I met a variety of people and forged meaningful connections, including with my future in-laws. I was also an active member of the West African Students’ Union, which provided a supportive community during my academic and personal journey.

What challenges did you face as a young woman studying abroad in those days?

Studying abroad comes with its own set of challenges, especially for a young woman. Financial constraints were a significant hurdle. I studied Secretarial Studies at North Western Polytechnic, but my allowance from home was often delayed due to irregularities in my father’s salary payments.

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As a civil servant, his inconsistent income meant that I had to manage limited resources with great patience and perseverance.

These experiences taught me resilience and resourcefulness—lessons that have been invaluable throughout my life. I met my husband in the UK.

Can you walk us through your career progression, leading to your role as Chief Executive Officer of Protocol and Hospitality?

My career began at the Institute of African Studies, where I worked as a secretary. This position provided me with essential administrative skills and laid the foundation for my future career. I later joined the University of Ife Library, where I expanded my expertise in organisational and operational tasks. From there, I transitioned into a role as a Protocol Officer at the University of Ife, managing official events and coordinating logistics for dignitaries and guests.

Due to my dedication and effective performance, I was eventually promoted to Chief Executive Officer of Protocol and Hospitality at the university.

In this role, I oversaw all aspects of hospitality and protocol, particularly during significant events like convocations and major ceremonies, ensuring their smooth and successful execution.

What were some of the challenges and highlights of your time while occupying that position?

As Chief Executive Officer of Protocol and Hospitality, one of the primary challenges was ensuring events went on seamlessly. This required meticulous planning and coordination to meet the diverse needs of university guests during high-profile occasions. The role demanded exceptional organisational skills, attention to detail, and the ability to handle pressure.

However, the rewards were immense. Successfully managing logistics for distinguished guests and overseeing important ceremonies provided me with a profound sense of accomplishment. These experiences underscored the importance of effective protocol and hospitality in academic institutions, and I take great pride in my contributions to the university’s prestigious functions.

In 1981, you were honoured with the title ‘Erewa Olokun of Ife’ by Oba Okunade Sijuwade. Can you share what this title meant to you and its significance in Ife’s culture?

Being honoured with the title of ‘Erewa Olokun of Ife’ by Oba Okunade Sijuwade in 1981 was deeply meaningful to me.

My work as a protocol officer at the university allowed me to develop a close relationship with the palace, particularly during regular visits of dignitaries.

This title symbolised an appreciation of my efforts in bridging the gap between the traditional cultural institution of Ife and the academic institution of the university.

It represented not only my personal contribution but also the importance of fostering relationships between these two significant pillars of the community.

How do you feel about the contributions you’ve made to Nigerian academia, culture, and hospitality over the years?

I feel a deep sense of pride and fulfilment when reflecting on my contributions. Working alongside esteemed figures like Professor Biobaku, Professor Michael Crowder, Professor Ulli Bier, and Mr Dipeolu, the university librarian, has been one of the highlights of my career. Collaborating with several vice-chancellors, including Professor Ajose, Professor Oluwasanmi, and Professor Onwuemechili, enriched my professional journey.

My work in protocol and hospitality allowed me to contribute to the seamless execution of many prestigious events, and these experiences have been both rewarding and humbling. I retired as the Chief Executive Officer of Protocol and Hospitality.

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You mentioned meeting your husband in the UK. Can you share more details about what attracted you to him?

I met my husband while studying at the North Western Polytechnic. He was a law student at a nearby university, and we were introduced by a mutual friend.

I was drawn to his character, kindness, and the way he treated me with respect. We got married in 1958 when I was 24 years old.

Although the marriage did not last, it was significant as it resulted in the birth of my first child.

We had our wedding in the UK, but unfortunately, my parents could not attend, and only my cousin was present. After the wedding, I moved to Ghana to live with him, but the experience was challenging.

The Ghanaian women were not welcoming, as they were reluctant to accept a non-Ghanaian, especially an educated one, as a spouse for their men.

The hostility eventually became unbearable, and I returned to Nigeria. Despite these difficulties, the marriage was blessed with a son, who, by birth, holds Ghanaian citizenship.

Did you remarry?

Yes, although not legally. I later met another man in Nigeria, with whom I had two more children. He was already married, but he played a significant fatherly role in my life and positively influenced my children, including my first son.

This relationship allowed me to expand my family and provided a supportive and nurturing environment for my children’s upbringing.

What was parenting like for you?

Raising my children while working in a university environment provided unique advantages. The proximity of the university made it easier for my children to attend school without the stress of long commuting.

They grew up in a safe and nurturing environment, with access to recreational facilities and extracurricular activities within the university community.

This setup significantly contributed to their overall development and allowed me to balance my career with my responsibilities as a mother.

Having lived through Nigeria’s pre-independence and post-independence eras, what major changes have you observed in the country’s development?

The changes in Nigeria since pre-independence are profound. One of the most noticeable differences is the sharp rise in inflation. I remember when everyday items were affordable, but now, I am shocked to hear that something as basic as three tomatoes can cost N1,000. This inflation reflects deeper economic instability and affects all aspects of life.

Moreover, I followed the news through television and Punch Newspapers and my children ensured that I stayed updated every weekend.

The reports highlight the socio-economic challenges facing Nigeria, including unemployment, corruption, and inadequate infrastructure.

The transition from the simpler times of my youth to the complex and difficult realities of today is both remarkable and concerning.

What advice would you give to younger generations, especially women aspiring to leadership positions in education or other fields?

For younger generations, particularly women, my advice is to embrace hard work, dedication, and perseverance. Leadership roles, whether in education or other fields, are not handed out easily. You must be willing to put in the effort and remain resilient in the face of challenges. Stay focused on your goals and consistently strive for excellence. Success in leadership requires not only talent but also an unwavering commitment to your craft and the determination to overcome obstacles along the way.

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Can you recall any specific traditions or practices from your family’s diverse heritage that were particularly meaningful to you?

The fusion of both ethnic and Yoruba cultures instilled in me a strong sense of discipline. Growing up, I was taught to be hospitable and respectful, not only to elders but also to those younger than me.

One tradition that stands out is the preparation of ethnic cuisine, a practice I continue to pass down to my children and grandchildren.

How did your parents’ different cultural backgrounds affect family celebrations and traditions?

Cultural differences were most apparent during family celebrations. For instance, the drumming styles varied; Yoruba drums, such as the gangan, were distinct from those of my ethnic group. Even the clothing differed, with Yoruba outfits being more decorative and artistic.

These contrasts enriched our family events, creating a unique blend of traditions.

Were there any specific cultural practices from either ethnic or Yoruba backgrounds that were significant in your upbringing?

Yes, values such as respect were deeply ingrained in me. There were challenges, especially in raising children, but we overcame them through intellectual guidance and a well-rounded upbringing.

What common mistakes do young women make today that you think lead to divorce?

Many young women today focus heavily on their careers, often neglecting family life. They leave household responsibilities to maids and avoid cooking, and relying on caterers, which can create a disconnect within the home.

My advice is to strike a balance between career and family, ensuring children receive the necessary attention and guidance.

How did balancing your career and family work for you?

In our time, we knew how to balance being both housewives and careerwomen. Today, many focus solely on their careers, often neglecting their homes. I believe it’s important to give equal time to both—50 per cent to career and 50 per cent to family.

Career is essential, but it should not overshadow family responsibilities. Balancing a career with family responsibilities might not be easy, but I tried my best. I also made sure my children learned how to cook traditional foods, which they still enjoy today.

What year did you retire?

I joined the University of Ife in 1962 and worked there until my retirement in 1994. However, I was granted an additional year, so I officially retired in 1995.

How has life in retirement been?

Retirement has allowed me to focus on my family more. I’ve enjoyed more time with my children and grandchildren, and now, I’m delighted to have great-grandchildren as well. It’s been a wonderful phase, full of family moments and new experiences.

You recently celebrated your 90th birthday. How do you feel about reaching this significant milestone?

Reaching 90 years is both a profound and reflective milestone for me. It brings a deep sense of gratitude and accomplishment. I view it as a testament to a life filled with rich experiences, enduring relationships, and cherished memories.

Reflecting on these years, I feel a blend of contentment and a renewed appreciation for the journey I’ve had.

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